if you ever try to befriend me and you expect to be in frequent contact with me i am so sorry. i do that with maybe two people and even then i often go days or weeks withouts saying anything before talking daily for a while. 

the point is if we dont talk that doesnt mean i dont like u and think about u a lot im just terrible at maintaining close relationships


Anonymous asked:

By the time Neal met Emma, he was guy in his mid-twenties, who'd had a job (that he chose to screw up), had already engaged in a number of white collar criminal activities, and who had a lot more sexual experience than she did. No matter what SFers want to think, Neal was not a stupid teenager who made a mistake. He knew he what was he was doing to Emma was wrong, but he went ahead a did it anyway because deep down he wanted nothing to do with magical princesses from the EF.

anti--swanfire answered:



If you’ve been following my blog lately, you probably know that I’m pretty much obsessed with Outlander. I read the books years and years ago after my best friend shoved it into my hands and demanded that I read it and I’ve been waiting for a movie or television show adaptation ever since.

And that’s where Outlander is truly appealing to the sexuality of its straight female viewers. Instead of painting female pleasure on the male terms of the virgin/whore dichotomy, the audience is shown sex as a normal, matter-of-fact piece of the relationship puzzle. Sure, Jamie and Claire can’t get enough of each other on their wedding night, but their passion is forged by the connections made in the unhurried conversations that make up the bulk of the episode. Jamie is kind and Claire is emotionally conflicted, and their sex isn’t perfect or without fumbling. At one point in the now infamous wedding episode, Jamie stops mid-coitus to make sure he hasn’t hurt Claire. It’s a far cry from the violent thrusting and distressed shouts of a Game of Thrones sex scene.
Outlander approaches sex in a way that’s only shocking because it isn’t shocking at all. It’s non-violent, sensual, natural, and the woman is framed as more than an object for male pleasure. Female sexuality isn’t demonized, and engaging in sex doesn’t diminish Claire as a character. Outlander is the rare television drama that shows us a woman who is sexually experienced without being the villain of the piece, and a man who sees her desire and pleasure as a participatory experience, rather than an object to edify his own importance.
Outlander and the Female Gaze: Why Women Are Watching via (via andibgoode)